Dating your therapist transport properties of self consolidating concrete
Looking for a tip or two on how to tackle the dating scene? Yes, we live in a modern world in which women can pay for themselves and open their own door. DON'T be overly influenced by expectations of family and friends such as, “Does she practice the same religion?
Then you've probably noticed the onslaught of search engine results when you Google the phrase "dating dos and don'ts." Yikes! DON'T convince yourself you only have one "type." DO widen your definition of a compatible mate. Still, it's nice when the man foots the bill after a dinner date. Is he the same race, or does he have the desired financial/educational status?
If Hollywood is an indicator of our most common fantasies, modern Americans want to sleep with their therapists.
I am horrified that so many television shows and movies depict romantic relationships between therapists and clients as though they were perfectly normal!
DO talk about yourself as who you are today in the present and the values and goals you have for yourself in the future. DON'T monopolize the conversation or make yourself the highlight real, no one healthy or worthwhile being in a relationship with is interested in getting into a coupleship with a narcissist.
The basic rules of the professional boards (and please don't quote them to me, I know what they are) are that there should be no sexual intimacy between patients and therapists, and that once the professional relationship is over there should be no less than two years before you are allowed to socially hang out, and even after two years, it is on the therapist to prove that they have not taken advantage of the prior knowledge/relationship they had with the patient, as many people in therapy ARE in a position of vulnerability and transference often occurs where they mistake love or like for a therapeutic relationship. After all, I know WHY the rule is in place, but that doesn't mean it applies to everyone, right?
The reason a person should not date their own patient is obvious, you may be taking advantage of a position of emotional authority...if you're no longer patient-therapist, does it matter?
Ok, not sure if this is the correct forum for this question, but I suspect I'll know what type of answers I'll get, and I've seen some people's way of responding lurking about before..here goes anyway. I shall preface this question by letting people know that I am a psychologist myself in profession, so I know what the supposed rules are, and I have never crossed the line myself with one of my own patients (nor been tempted to), but suffice to say, Im curious how bad it really would be to date someone that was PREVIOUSLY in a patient-therapist position with you, NOT while you are STILL in therapy.
Please be advised this is partially something I've contemplated in real life, and partially a hypothetical question as I've not decided on anything either way.